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I’ve always been fascinated with the idea that 5 people can experience the same thing and yet, have 5 different perspectives or stories about what happened. Personal experiences, cultural norms, and even something as simple as age all work together to shape our views, interpretations, and interactions with the world around us. It reminds me of an experience I had, way back when I was just a young teenager, working with 2 year olds at a daycare. Here is what happened…

What I saw

“Seriously? She is 2. Be a parent and put her coat on. Are you really chasing your own child down the hall begging her to put that coat on? Who is the adult here? I’m half your age and can control a room full of twice as many 2 year olds. Well, I can only imagine how that is going to go when she is a teenager. Geez, that’s like Parenting 099 for crying out loud. Put the coat on and be done with it.”

The reality that I should have seen

“Wow. She must be so exhausted. After working all day and keeping the house together, now she has another 3 hours of chasing that tiny human around and putting food on the table. She must feel so torn between paying bills and losing precious time with those who mean the most to her. Scoop up that baby, snuggle her, and enjoy every screaming second.”


Same event. Same scenario. Different perspective. The way we treat people is based on our perspective, not necessarily reality. Once we learn to step out of our own eyes to see through the eyes of someone else, only then can we possibly see reality as it truly is.

Next time you think you know, you think you understand, you think the situation is clear, think again. Discover another’s perspective. Discover reality. It might just help you gain a new perspective and if you are truly lucky, compassion.


  1. Janice Wald

    March 28, 2016 at 2:20 am

    Congratulations! You won the Inspire Me Monday Linky Party with this post! You are being featured on my blog tomorrow!
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    1. Leanne

      March 28, 2016 at 8:26 am

      Thank you so much! I am glad that I was able to offer some inspiration and am very flattered to be chosen. Being featured too, that’s just awesomeness ?! Your blog has so much useful and effective information for blogging. There is so much to learn there! Thanks again!

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  4. Katie Jenkins

    April 5, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Love this, Leanne. I definitely agree. I feel as though I’m improving with age when it comes to taking a step back and looking at it from a different perspective. However, I still have a tendency to forget about looking at getting cut off by a dude in a hummer through different eyes;-) Ha! But who knows? He could’ve just lost a loved one and is in a complete daze.

    Some days are better than others when it comes to taking that step back!

    This is a terrific reminder and such a fantastic post.

    Thank you. And it’s so wonderful connecting with you on Pinterest! Thank you very much for reaching out.

  5. Carol Cameleon

    April 25, 2016 at 4:27 pm

    Compassion and perspective. Now there’s a thing! The human race is very judgemental which is really sad.

    1. Leanne

      April 26, 2016 at 6:18 pm

      That is sadly true- it seems we swing both ways, either too “judgey” or too sensitive. I always say, middle ground is the best ground! Thanks for reading!

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